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Sexuality needs divorce from dogma

By KEITH CANTU

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Published: Thursday, November 5, 2009

Updated: Friday, November 6, 2009

The fashion and the music of the 1960s are certainly still in vogue on campus, but its revolutionary spirit is not. Deeply tucked away within the student handbook, one will find a jarringly backwards and strikingly offensive statement on sex at Pepperdine. The section, simply titled “sexual relationships,” would be quite laughable in 21st century America if it weren’t for the puritanical severity with which this university seems to limit sexuality among students. While living at Pepperdine, one could almost forget that the Sexual Revolution and all of its accompanying societal reforms even happened … almost.

Events like the Pepperdine Dating Initiative, while handily dismissed as ridiculous and irrelevant by much of the student body and faculty, only serve to underscore the retrograde way literal interpretations of Scripture have impacted sexuality on campus. (Incidentally, as of press time the initiative was also considered “sexist and creepy” by the majority of respondents on last week’s Graphic online poll.)

The student handbook explicitly assumes its literal interpretation as the only truth, and comes on strong with a statement that is somehow at once pithy and bombastic: “Pepperdine University affirms that sexual relationships are designed by God to be expressed solely within a marriage between husband and wife.”

Oh, Pepperdine— wake up! If sex could really be placed in such a narrow theological framework, the poets and artists of the world (particularly the past 40 years) may as well trash many of their creative works. One example is The Beatles’ song “Why Don’t We Do It in the Road,” written by Paul McCartney after witnessing two monkeys copulating on an Indian road.

For some, like my grandparents who have been happily married for more than 60 years and have stuck together even amid catastrophic personal tragedies, the traditional model of relationships obviously works and works well. I have great respect for love made manifest in the context of lasting marriage, as it is often indisputably genuine and full of life.
However, the Pepperdine community should not use marriage as a limiting tool to restrict how love can or cannot be physically expressed. It’s like trying to lock every exploding star in the universe within a pristine, neat little box. Let’s be real – boxing in love is simply unnatural and impossible.

As if that’s not enough, however, the handbook’s statement on sexual relationships continues by dogmatically proclaiming the following: “This view of sexuality and marriage is rooted in the Genesis account of creation and is maintained consistently throughout Scripture.”

First of all, the idea that sexual relationships are consistently defined throughout the Bible is questionable at best. One blatant contradiction is how homosexual relationships are not even mentioned by Christ (rather ironic considering he is the essence of Christianity), whereas the priestly code of the Old Testament makes them punishable by death in Leviticus 20:13 (NIV): “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death ... ” If Scripture had a “consistent view” on sexuality as the handbook states, it seems that Christ himself may have wanted to address this. In fact, he barely mentions sexuality at all, but does strongly preach against the very pharisaical legalism that the student handbook implicitly professes. Additionally, where does the Genesis account of creation fit within the framework of evolutionary biology and historical anthropology – critical disciplines for any university? And what about metaphorical interpretations of Scripture? Why does the Episcopal Church (claiming more than 2 million Christian members) allow the consecration of openly gay bishops? 

Despite what the handbook would have you believe, I urge the student body to open your eyes to the illusionary narrative constructed by the authors of “sexual relationships.” I am not advocating carnal promiscuity, but an understanding that sexuality has the power to breathe life and beauty into the community and should be expressed at the intuitive discretion of each individual. Even Christ seems to agree.

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Claudia Satori
Fri Feb 26 2010 22:43
Please let me weigh in, from my own experience, as a woman. i engaged in premarital sex and ended up married to an abusive man. despite the church's stance on pre-marital sex, i thought i knew better. when that marriage ended, and i started dating again, i again engaged in sex and got emotionally attached to someone who wasn't emotionally available. Men, please note that sex is what allows women to become emotionally attached, and if that isn't what you want, you end up with a bad break-up. women, please note that sex is not casual. no matter what you tell yourself, you lose a piece of yourself each time you engage in sex outside of marriage. I grew up in the 70's and "everyone" was doing "it". guess what - everyone wasn't and out my group, i was the only one who did, and also the only who ended up divorced.

The devil is looking for those who choose to be the decider, instead of being obedient to church or even school policy. If the policy is an anathema to you, then make a choice to go to school elsewhere that doesn't have the policy. Right or wrong, these are the rules that Pepperdine chooses to play by. You can work on modifying the policy, but you can't call the school out for it. Just saying, that there is more to life than what 20-somethings know there is. from someone who has been there and done that and bears the scars from it.

Taylor
Thu Dec 24 2009 12:32
"The bible does advocate misogyny, homophobia, sexual repression, faith over reason, and the use of fear to strengthen faith. You're right, the text itself is actually that wicked."

I understand how it could look that way to somebody on the outside, looking in. You can pick apart Scripture and point to passages that appear to belittle or condemn homosexuals and women, or promote slavery, as well as the other things you listed. As a Christian, I have had a hard time accepting some of the Bible's teachings, which has led me to research the historical contexts in which these apparent backward passages were written, and this has eased many of my qualms. Actually, I've found that the Bible was revolutionary and progressive for its time.

You also need to remember that Christians are called (through the Bible) to love their enemies. In 1 Cor. 13, love is defined as patient, kind, generous, humble, polite, selfless, slow-to-anger, protecting, trustful, hopeful, and everlasting. Ultimately, our faith--and the Scripture--is about love. Think of it as a harmony, in which the easy-to-accept teachings are sung simultaneously with the passages that seem questionable or oppressive. The resulting pitch--the ultimate message--is love.

Nick
Sun Dec 20 2009 19:22
Perhaps not. But, dumping the CoC would certainly stop the unjust preferential treatment that CoC students receive in admissions quotas and financial aid. Also, it would stop the preferential treatment that CoC professors receive in university hiring and promotions.
Bob
Sun Dec 20 2009 17:16
Given that Pepperdine's policy conforms with the virtually univeral Christian position, I don't see how Pepperdine changing to a general Protestant affiliation will have any impact on the policy in question.
Nick
Sun Dec 20 2009 17:11
Q, You are protected by the Leonard Law, which gives you the same speech rights as students at public colleges. You can publicly criticize Pepperdine's CoC affiliation without fear of disciplinary action.
Q
Sun Dec 20 2009 04:17
Hmm...

I suppose you're right. Unfortunately, the atmosphere around here isn't exactly conducive to that kind of debate. Criticizing what have basically become the core values of Pepperdine might be an option for someone such as yourself who's graduated, but it isn't a very bright idea for a current student to do that. It's tough to justify putting your academic career in jeopardy for a cause that has little chance of succeeding any time soon. That might sound like a cop-out, but I'm not so sure given how the deck is stacked against any kind of dissent from students.

Nick
Sat Dec 19 2009 21:17
"I personally would like to see Pepperdine take on a generally Protestant affiliation rather than a specific denomination. Not sure if that's likely to happen though."

Excellent, I agree that dropping the CoC would be progress in the right direction. It is what I have been fighting for. But, change isn't likely to happen if non-CoC Christians, like yourself, don't openly criticize and advocate against CoC policies and influence at the university.

Q
Sat Dec 19 2009 20:41
Nick,

Once again, assumptions...

I am not Church of Christ. I disagree with Church of Christ on many issues. I stated that I disagree with Pepperdine on the issue we're discussing. And I don't believe in biblical inerrancy (but that doesn't preclude me from using it as a framework when discussing the beliefs of other Christians).

I'm arguing that from Pepperdine's point of view, it wouldn't make sense to change the policy regardless of what any other denomination or the secular world thinks about the issue. *Given CoC's view* of biblical inerrancy and their interpretations of the passages about sexual conduct, it would be wrong for them to do so.

I personally would like to see Pepperdine take on a generally Protestant affiliation rather than a specific denomination. Not sure if that's likely to happen though.

Nick
Sat Dec 19 2009 20:32
Taylor,
At best, Jesus meant the parable to mean that secular Israelites would suffer eternal punishment. At worst, he literally meant it that apostates should be murdered. I'm not sure how you can rationally accept either one of those interpretations.

Again, I have no doubts that you know the bible very well. And, I actually think that most of your interpretations of scripture (with the exception of slavery) are absolutely correct. The bible does advocate misogyny, homophobia, sexual repression, faith over reason, and the use of fear to strengthen faith. You're right, the text itself is actually that wicked. I know that. Trust me, you will find much better moral frameworks in the study of philosophy.

Taylor
Sat Dec 19 2009 18:20
Luke 19: 11-26 - The Parable of the Ten Minas

11While they were listening to this, he went on to tell them a parable, because he was near Jerusalem and the people thought that the kingdom of God was going to appear at once. 12He said: "A man of noble birth went to a distant country to have himself appointed king and then to return. 13So he called ten of his servants and gave them ten minas. 'Put this money to work,' he said, 'until I come back.'
14"But his subjects hated him and sent a delegation after him to say, 'We don't want this man to be our king.'
15"He was made king, however, and returned home. Then he sent for the servants to whom he had given the money, in order to find out what they had gained with it.
16"The first one came and said, 'Sir, your mina has earned ten more.'
17" 'Well done, my good servant!' his master replied. 'Because you have been trustworthy in a very small matter, take charge of ten cities.'
18"The second came and said, 'Sir, your mina has earned five more.'
19"His master answered, 'You take charge of five cities.'
20"Then another servant came and said, 'Sir, here is your mina; I have kept it laid away in a piece of cloth. 21I was afraid of you, because you are a hard man. You take out what you did not put in and reap what you did not sow.'
22"His master replied, 'I will judge you by your own words, you wicked servant! You knew, did you, that I am a hard man, taking out what I did not put in, and reaping what I did not sow? 23Why then didn't you put my money on deposit, so that when I came back, I could have collected it with interest?'
24"Then he said to those standing by, 'Take his mina away from him and give it to the one who has ten minas.'
25" 'Sir,' they said, 'he already has ten!'
26"He replied, 'I tell you that to everyone who has, more will be given, but as for the one who has nothing, even what he has will be taken away. 27But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them—bring them here and kill them in front of me."
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As you can see, Jesus was telling a parable in Luke 19. The words you quoted, "But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them—bring them here and kill them in front of me," were dialogue from a story about using the gifts and talents God has given you. If that is truly the justification the Spanish Inquisition used for their crimes, then it looks like you're just as off-base with regards to that passage as they were.

There are plenty other verses you could have taken out of context to support your claim that Jesus was intolerant and a bigot, but the fact that you chose Luke 19 shows me you aren't as researched on the Bible as you'd like us to believe.

Nick
Sat Dec 19 2009 17:42
@ Q,
I don't want to get off the topic of discussion, but I have done significant work advocating that the university should drop its affiliation with the Churches of Christ (see the Facebook group: Secularize Pepperdine). The university is not Church-controlled. Pepperdine does have a legal right to adopt CoC doctrine. But, it also has a legal right to abandon the Churches of Christ and its immoral influences.

I actually think that that you and other fundamentalists (like Falwell) are 100% right about the bible. The bible is every bit as intolerant, ignorant, misogynistic, and sexually repressive as you say it is. I refuse to dignify the claim that the bible is a communication that is fundamentally different from any other book. The Illiad, Koran, Book of Mormon and the Bible are all merely human fabricated literature with fictitious claims about moral truth dictated from the supernatural. These are not even the best books we have on philosophy and moral truth anymore. According to your bible, the creator of the universe really does condemn homosexuals. In Luke 19, Jesus says "But those enemies of mine who did not want me to be king over them—bring them here and kill them in front of me." The torturers in the Spanish Inquisition and the murderous mobs of the Jewish pogroms were acting perfectly reasonable given what they believed. So, I reject your claim that the bible contains universal moral truth. Your belief in an inerrant bible disqualifies you from the exercise of reason, reasonableness, and openness to new evidence.

So, you are right. I can't and won't argue against the student handbook from scripture. Keith made an attempt at doing that, but I would prefer not to dignify the exercise.

Q
Sat Dec 19 2009 16:09
Nick,

Until Church of Christ specifically changes its doctrine on premarital sex changes or the affiliation is dropped, Pepperdine is obligated to have the policy regardless of what other denominations do. And you're missing the point regarding bandwagon appeal: any "official doctrine" that rests on it is based on the assumption that human opinion impacts right and wrong. From a Christian point of view, this is simply false. Under any form of theism, morality is grounded in God, not man. There's a difference between truth and belief. Truth is the actual state of affairs, belief is what we hold the state of affairs to be. If our beliefs are true, it is because they reflect the actual state of affairs. The state of affairs isn't determined by our beliefs about it. Truth is truth regardless of what any human being thinks.

Now, if a denomination genuinely thinks the scriptural evidence says premarital sex is okay, that's a different story. But that isn't what's happened in recent decades. There's been a reinterpretation in light of public opinion, an action simply lacks any legitimacy given a theistic worldview.

Pepperdine is well within its legal rights to have the policies, and has a moral obligation to be in line with CoC doctrine if it's going to affiliate itself with CoC (which it also has a legal right to do). So there's no argument to made against the policy from a secular point of view. And to say that there's one from a Christian point of view is even more ridiculous. Look at it from Pepperdine's perspective: there's a divinely-ordained moral law in place. Some people who believe in the source of the law are nonetheless breaking it, and even saying that it really isn't that important of a law anymore. Is that any reason for Pepperdine to change its position? Of course not. From Pepperdine's point of view, these other denominations are mistaken. Why would it change its policy on the basis of what it holds are doctrinal mistakes on the part of others?

Nick
Fri Dec 18 2009 18:51
More from the Barna Group's study, "A New Generation of Adults Bends Moral and Sexual Rules to Their Liking"

"Just 33% of born again pre-Busters believe that cohabitation is morally acceptable. However, among born again Busters nearly twice as many (59%) agreed, representing a majority of young Christian adults. Among non-Christian older adults, 65% concurred, while 80% of non-Christian Busters felt cohabitation was acceptable. This same response pattern was evident when it came to gambling, sexual fantasies, abortion, sex outside of marriage, profanity, pornography, same-sex marriage, and the use of illegal drugs."

As the Baby Boomer generation passes, there won't be anyone left to support abstinence and traditional marriage in church doctrines.

Taylor
Fri Dec 18 2009 18:48
That is becoming the doctrine of *various* Christian churches, but not all of them or even most of them. If we reach a point in which the majority of Christian denominations decide premarital sex is acceptable, then you'll have a strong case against Pepperdine's sex policies. But the Bible's stance on sex will never change, even if the majority of Christians decide they can reconcile premarital sex with Christian morality.

In my personal opinion, churches and individuals are throwing out certain aspects of Scripture for the sake of convenience; they'd rather practice a faith in which all types of sex are acceptable, for example, because then life would be a whole lot easier. But the Christian walk has never been about convenience. Once you begin to "pick and choose" from the Bible, you might as well get rid of the whole thing. But that's just my two cents.

Nick
Fri Dec 18 2009 17:42
Bob,
Once again, you only want to latch onto part of the story. Yes, premarital sex has been universal (~95%) since at least the 1960's, but the trend toward delayed marriage is new and unprecedented in human history. Men are waiting on average until they are ~29 years-old to get married. This is a game changer and there is evidence that there is now a generational divide in Christian moral principals. The Barna Group's study, "A New Generation of Adults Bends Moral and Sexual Rules to Their Liking" in 2006 found that "most young adults contended that engaging in sex outside of marriage and viewing pornography are not morally problematic, while only one-third of pre-Busters agreed. Almost half of Busters believed that sexual relationships between people of the same sex are acceptable, compared with one-quarter of older adults."

So, the Christian moral principals of Baby Boomers and Baby Busters are world's apart. Of course, I concede that there is a difference between "bandwagon appeal" and the "official doctrine" of various Christian churches. But, I think you can look to the Episcopal Church as evidence that "official doctrine" tends to follow the bandwagon over time. When the Evangelical Lutheran Church voted in August 2009 to allow "sexually active" gays to join the clergy, is that not permitting premarital sex of a kind?

Taylor Bird
Fri Dec 18 2009 16:07
I've never been to or heard of any Christian church that condones premarital sex. Perhaps a large percentage of Christians are having sex outside of marriage, but that doesn't take away from the Bible's standing on the issue. Believe it or not, but Christians aren't perfect. They do and say things that are contradictory to the Bible's standards. Skeptics are so quick to point out Christian hypocrisy when it supports their case against religion. Ironically, in this situation, Nick is using such behavior to make an argument that the majority (or at least a large percentage) of Christians support premarital sex.
Bob
Fri Dec 18 2009 15:39
Nick:

Once again, you only tell part of the story. The article you cite ironically serves to undercurrent your previous arguments. Based on the report, the percentage of adults having premarital sex in the 1950's is not drastically different than today. I would be willing to guess that if a survey was done in the early part of this century and before you would find similar results. However, Christianity's position on premarital sex has remained virtually the same. What does this tell us? A couple of things. First, that there has alway been a tension between what Christianity teaches as the preferred way of living and what people actually decide to do. Second, that contrary to your assertions, Christian principles regarding premarital sex are not likely to change.

Q
Fri Dec 18 2009 05:14
"Sexuality has the power to breathe life and beauty into the community and should be expressed at the intuitive discretion of each individual. Even Christ seems to agree."

Breathe life into the community? Regardless of your view on the premarital aspect of it, sex is private. What kind of community are we talking about, exactly?

And how exactly did Jesus supporting sexual expression work out with the whole celibacy thing?

I'd be very interested to know what some of you are using as your basis for biblical interpretation. Right now I'm seeing a combination of "whatever supports my position" and knee-jerk reaction to even the slightest suggestion that the bible may be a moral authority of any kind.

Nick, I'm not trying to be mean but your position is supported almost entirely by bandwagon appeal. It's true that a lot of denominations are relaxing on this issue, but that has little is anything to do with the actual truth of the matter. It's social pressure more than anything else, and that's a pretty poor thing to base doctrine on. And yes, a lot of Christians are having premarital sex. But if it is truly a sin, all that means is that more people are sinning. I don't really see how any of this amounts to a case against the policy.

Honestly I agree with some of your conclusions, but the way you're arriving at them is dubious at best.

The fact of the matter is that we attend a religiously-affiliated school and it would simply be irresponsible for our administration not to follow the tenets of Church of Christ in light of that. When we take on that affiliation, we become representative of its traditions. It would simply be wrong for the school to claim CoC affiliation and then let moral anarchy ensue.

I don't support the policy. But as long as we're affiliated with CoC it's not going to go away, nor should it. If we want to get rid of it the only reasonable course of action is to drop the affiliation, otherwise we're being extremely two-faced.

What's your issue with the rule, anyway? It's not like it ever gets enforced, unless you're counting visitation.

"This policy ought to be disdained as an abuse against children."

I cracked up when I read this one. Let me see if I have this right: we're children when they're "abusing" us, but also responsible enough to have sex?

Nick
Thu Dec 17 2009 18:20
@Hmmm. Here's your evidence...

By age 44, 95% of Americans have engaged in premarital sex . Even among those who abstained from sex until age 20 or older, 81% had had premarital sex by age 44. That is according to “Trends in Premarital Sex in the United States, 1954–2003,” by Lawrence B. Finer, published in the January/February 2007 issue of Public Health Reports.

Premarital sex is nearly universal amongst Americans and has been for decades We do have quantitative data that demonstrates that the student handbook is totally unrealistic and irrelevant. Yet, Pepperdine's policies are far worse that just that. The student handbook is outright wicked and immoral in the way that it reinforces a misogynistic concept of women as the vessels of temptation, teaches sex as a matter of guilt and shame, and insists on total sexual repression until your late twenties. Pepperdine's policy sets young people up for certain failure and then leaves them ill equipped to prevent unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. This policy ought to be disdained as an abuse against children.

Hmm...
Wed Dec 16 2009 20:16
Adrienne, there really isn't much value in citing anecdotal evidence.

For what it's worth, uh... every Christian who waited (even evangelicals) and every married couple I know, are all satisfied that they did so. Therefore, this must be true for the entire world.

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